A Lesson in Relationships.

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The Science of Happiness: Why Complaining is Literally Killing You

Complaining and stressing seem to be what we as American’s constantly do. We participate in complaining competitions to see who’s life is worse and we watch complaining in the form of reality TV shows. It is an addiction and it needs to stop because complaining and stress are literally killing us.

Source: The Science of Happiness: Why Complaining is Literally Killing You – DavidWolfe.com

IT’S TOTALLY FINE TO BLOW ALL YOUR CASH ON TRAVELING, SAYS SCIENCE

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Experiences > material items

It turns out that it’s not whoever has the most stuff wins; it’s whomever has had the most experiences wins, and ends up being happier.

Say what? Aren’t we supposed to save all our money so we can keep up with having the newest of phones, TVs, and cars?

It turns out that while we used to think material things were the way to happiness, according to science, what will bring you the most lasting happiness are experiences — travel, outdoor activities, new skills, and visiting exhibitions. 

We think because our brand new TV will last longer than a cruise to Bermuda, that the happiness we felt at purchasing the TV lasts longer, too. Unfortunately, that isn’t the case.

“One of our enemies of happiness is adaption,” says Dr. Thomas Gilovich, a psychology professor at Cornell University who’s been researching the correlation between money and happiness for decades. “We buy things to make us happy, and we succeed, but only for a little while. New things are exciting to us at first, but then we adapt to them.”

Because our new TV is right there, it makes it easier for us to adapt to it. But slowly, it starts to fade into the background as an electronic wallflower of our lives. Trips we took, and experiences we’ve had, start to become part of our identities.

Think about it: Which had a greater impact on you — that video game you got as a kid, or thefamily vacation you took to Greece? You know, the trip with stories that can still make you and your siblings laugh when reminiscing.

“Our experiences are a bigger part of ourselves than our material goods,” said Gilovich in the study “A Wonderful Life: Experiential Consumption and the Pursuit of Happiness,” published in the Journal of Consumer Psychology

“You can really like your material stuff. You can even think that part of your identity is connected to those things, but nonetheless they remain separate from you. In contrast, your experiences really are a part of you. We’re the sum total of our experiences.”

Humans are highly social creatures, and meaningful social relationships contribute hugely in our happiness levels.

Gilovich continues, “One reason that experiential purchases tend to provide more enduring satisfaction is that they more readily, more broadly, and more deeply connect us to others.”

Our experiences make us who we are, connect us with other people, and bring us great amounts of happiness.

So, what’s stopping you? Take that money you’ve been putting towards a new couch and get on a flight for Thailand, sign up for a cooking class, or visit the next exhibition at a local museum. You’ll be much happier.

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42 Ways Istanbul Is So Beautiful It Actually Hurts.

DECEMBER 11, 2014, 12:06PM
BY: MARIE TELLING

1. Istanbul is so gorgeous it hurts.

Istanbul is so gorgeous it hurts.

2. There is beauty literally everywhere…

There is beauty literally everywhere...

3. And delicious food at every corner!

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Such as lokma – the divine Turkish donuts.

4. Where else in the world can you find cisterns that look like actual cathedrals?

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This is the Basilica Cistern, built in the 6th century.

5. And palaces overlooking the Bosphorus?

And palaces overlooking the Bosphorus?

Like Dolmabahçe Palace.

6. AND amazing Döner kebab?

AND amazing Döner kebab?
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7. Istanbul has an amazingly rich history.

Istanbul has an amazingly rich history.

This is the Maiden’s Tower. It’s been located on the Bosphorus since 1110. According to the legend, a Byzantine emperor had the tower built for his daughter. An oracle had predicted her death on her 18th birthday and he thought that if she lived in the middle of the Bosphorus, she would escape this fate. Obviously, she did not, because as far as legends go, when an oracle predicts your death, you’re doomed.

8. This beautiful monument is the Chora church. There’s been a church on this site since the 5th century.

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Garrette Ziegler / Flickr: garrettziegler

9. And this is what the famous Hagia Sophia looks like from the inside. Have you ever seen anything so majestic?

And this is what the famous Hagia Sophia looks like from the inside. Have you ever seen anything so majestic?
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The monument built in 537 used to be an Orthodox basilica until 1453, when it became a mosque. It was turned into a museum in 1935.

10. But the city doesn’t live in the past.

But the city doesn't live in the past.
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These fishermen are a usual sight on Galata Bridge.

11. It is incredibly lively and dynamic.

It is incredibly lively and dynamic.
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This is Taksim Square.

12. And did I mention beautiful?

And did I mention beautiful?
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13. Even the seagulls are majestic!

Even the seagulls are majestic!
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14. Istanbul has amazing cafés.

Istanbul has amazing cafés.

15. Where you can smoke shisha…

Where you can smoke shisha...

16. And play backgammon.

And play backgammon.
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Or Okey, another really popular game in Turkey.

17. Istanbul is also populated by cute stray cats.

Istanbul is also populated by cute stray cats.
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18. They’re everywhere and people take care of the ones in their neighborhood.

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19. The city is home to beautiful and very diverse neighborhoods. Such as Arnavutköy…

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20. And Fener…

And Fener...
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21. With its cobblestone streets and colorful buildings.

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22. And then, there is Gulhane Park, with all its pretty tulips.

23. Let me tell you about the food: from the spices market…

Let me tell you about the food: from the spices market...

24. …to all the street food.

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25. And the simit carts.

And the simit carts.
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A bread topped with sesame seeds.

26. And Ayran!

And Ayran!
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An always refreshing yoghurt mixed with salt.

27. And the fish! From the dockside fish restaurants…

And the fish! From the dockside fish restaurants...

28. …to the fish markets.

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29. The food in Istanbul is so good it’s mind-altering.

The food in Istanbul is so good it's mind-altering.
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Here is a künefe, a cheese pastry soaked in syrup.

30. You’d need a whole book to cover it all.

You'd need a whole book to cover it all.
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Here is a Turkish breakfast (the croissant isn’t the most typical, but whatever), with some Turkish tea.

31. But let’s just say that once you’ve had a baklava, there is no coming back.

But let's just say that once you've had a baklava, there is no coming back.
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You’ll just never be the same anymore.

32. If you’re a coffee lover, Istanbul’s got you covered.

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Obviously.

33. But the real star of the city is the Bosphorus.

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34. The strait that separates Europe from Asia is the lifeline of the city.

The strait that separates Europe from Asia is the lifeline of the city.
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35. It also makes for a beautiful sight. From Rumelihisari fortress…

It also makes for a beautiful sight. From Rumelihisari fortress...

36. …to the Ortakoy Mosque.

...to the Ortakoy Mosque.
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37. And if you venture south into the Marmara Sea, there is the island of Büyükada.

And if you venture south into the Marmara Sea, there is the island of Büyükada.
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38. Which is so charming it’s just too much.

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39. Also: ferryboats! Istanbul has lots of ferryboats.

Also: ferryboats! Istanbul has lots of ferryboats.
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40. And everyone knows that ferryboats are just the best.

And everyone knows that ferryboats are just the best.
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41. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by so much beauty, don’t worry.

If you're feeling overwhelmed by so much beauty, don't worry.
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9 Thought-Provoking Lessons From the Best TED Talks of 2014.

DECEMBER 16, 2014
BY: MINDA ZETLIN

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A few hours of TV watching can give you a year’s worth of wisdom.

The presents have been opened. The guests have gone home. It’s time to get into your jammies and snuggle down on the sofa for some well-deserved relaxation and maybe a little TV: It’s a Wonderful Life, Miracle on 34th Street, or one of the many versions of A Christmas Carol. But if you’d like to start 2015 with a big dose of inspiration, consider spending some of your viewing time on 47 enlightening speeches published by TED during 2014.

To make this prospect as tempting as possible, the TED folks have assembled aneight-minute video of the highlights from these talks which is guaranteed to get you curious about at least a few of them (or all of them, if you’re me).

The TED folks have helpfully broken the talks down by theme, so you can go right for what interests you the most. Taken together, these videos add up to a quick infusion of insight, and some important lessons we should all take away from 2014:

1. Our world is an amazing place.

Chris Hadfield shares the view from the International Space Station. Fabien Cousteausuggests that we live in the oceans. Master musicians perform and record all over the world. And physicist Allan Adams finds the afterglow of the Big Bang.

2. Medicine takes a leap forward.

Hugh Herr shows how bionics mean you don’t need to have legs to dance. Doctors on the cutting edge show how to find cancer way before it’s a threat and how to make a fold-up microscope for 50 cents. And one brave physician explains why patients and doctors are frightened of each other.

3. Might does not make right.

Visionaries take a closer look at what power really means, especially in the internet age. Meanwhile Simon Anholt and Michael Green remind us that rich countries don’t always do well by their own people or anyone else.

4. Economic inequality is not sustainable.

Our current levels of income inequality should make everyone nervous, whether you’re in the 1 percent or the 99 percent. An economist and a watchdog explain why.

5. Big Data changes everything.

Data scientists took a look at the amazing things data can tell us and how data can even make us safer. But who should control our data? Edward Snowden and the NSAhave their own opinions.

6. We can make the world better.

Journalists in war zones and those who’ve been there explain how.

7. Being creative is a constant struggle.

Artists from Sting to Elizabeth Gilbert explain that it isn’t as easy as it looks.

8. We’re evolving, and so is English.

Linguists argue for a more inclusive view of our native tongue. Except when it comes to the word “awesome.” And Nicholas Negroponte reviews his decades of talks as a way to approach the future.

9. We can be better than we are.

Speakers from Isabel Allende to Gabby Giffords explore how we can be our best, most passionate selves. Those who’ve faced terrorism and prison explain how our past can be a reason to grow instead of shrink.

And finally, psychologist Dan Gilbert skewers our human misconception that who we are today will bear any resemblance to who we’re going to be in 10 years. “Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they’re finished,” he declares. That’s a truth we should all keep in mind as we head into 2015.

Source: http://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/9-thought-provoking-lessons-from-the-best-ted-talks-of-2014.html

9 Reasons Why Traveling Alone Is The Best Way To See The World.

DECEMBER 1, 2014, 10:46AM
BY: EMILY HIGGINBOTHAM

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There is often a stigma attached to doing things alone. Our first reaction to seeing someone eating alone at a restaurant or sitting by him or herself at the movie theater is that he or she didn’t have anyone to go with. We feel sympathy for them, pity, even. Lately, I have been the subject of that sympathy.

I recently took a trip to Rome by myself. When I informed my friends I was going alone, they were either appalled or felt bad for me. They would ask, “Why would you ever travel alone?” I also received an unprecedented amount of, “Good for you!”

I told them I didn’t want to miss out on a trip just because no one was going to accompany me. Since then, I have realized that this stigma associated with traveling alone (i.e. friendless, loner) just simply is not true.

Not only did I find that traveling alone wasn’t sad or worthy of someone’s sympathy, but it was also possibly the trip on which I learned the most about myself and the world.

Here are nine reasons why traveling alone is the best way to travel:

1. You get to do what YOU want to do

This first reason might be the most obvious, but when you’re traveling in a group or with another person, it is easy to get caught up in what the group or that other person has planned for your trip.

Sometimes, it doesn’t even occur to you that you’d rather do something else than visit every museum and tourist site your travel companions are dying to see.

When you travel alone, you get to skip the awful, “What do you want to do?” and just get up and do it! The itinerary is all yours; you don’t have to worry about others not enjoying the activity.

Even if you are on a trip with a group with differing interests, take a day or an afternoon and venture off on your own to take in whatever it is you deem worthy of your time. I would have missed out on some extremely special moments if I had not decided to go it alone on a trip.


2. You find out what interests you in the world

If you’re traveling in a group, you’re less likely to stop when something catches your eye. You might fear you’d be holding up your group by making a pit stop. But, when you travel alone, you have the freedom to investigate your intrigue.

You can learn so much more about yourself and what you enjoy by taking the time to just stop and soak in a place. More importantly, you find out what does not interest you.

You don’t have to do things you’ve been doing solely because everyone else said, “We HAVE to go here,” or “This place is a MUST-see.”

On my solo trip, I learned I simply despise museums. I walked around exhibits full of historical tidbits I would normally never think twice about in my everyday life and wondered, “Why the hell did I want to come here?”

And, then, I realized it was because everyone had said it was something you HAD to see. I learned I would rather be doing something interactive than spending my time staring blankly at art pieces I don’t understand.

You only have so much time on these trips to explore; spend it searching for something that makes you want to stop in your tracks, something that makes you think.


3. You become more comfortable with yourself

I know many people who will not do anything by themselves. These are the people who will not be caught dead at a sit-down restaurant by themselves; they even want someone to accompany them to the restroom.

They are so fearful of being seen as a loner, or that people may think they don’t have any friends.

I used to have similar fears, but once you take a trip by yourself, the “caring about what everyone else thinks of you,” will pretty much fly out the window. You start to realize there is nothing embarrassing or scary about traveling alone.

On a trip, I walked into a very nice restaurant and told the maître d that I would like a table for one.

He looked puzzled, gave me a look of sympathy and asked, “Just one?” I repeated myself and made sure my tone expressed how much I did not care that I was alone and he was kind of being an assh*le.

Once you start traveling on your own, you learn to be comfortable in your skin and confident in who you are. You might be surprised when you start craving this alone time.

It is so refreshing to just go somewhere and explore a new place without feeling like you need to entertain another person.


4. You can go at your own pace

People often have different mindsets when it comes to traveling and sightseeing.

Some people want to go, go, go and try to fit as many activities as they can into however much time they have. Others like to soak things in, even if it means they don’t see everything. These differing mentalities can often clash when traveling together.

The former gets frustrated and thinks there won’t be enough time to see whatever is on the itinerary, while the latter feels rushed and wants to spend more time at each activity.

The great thing about being by yourself on a trip is that you get to set your own pace. If you want to have a jam-packed trip, go out and do it. But, if you’d rather just meander about and get lost in this new place, you can do that, too! You’re on your time — no one else’s.


5. You become more independent

If you’re like me, you often let others take the reins when it comes to planning and navigating trips. But, when you’re traveling alone, you’re truly on your own.

One of the most important things I had to learn when going it alone was to stop depending on other people. I became independent; I learned how to use a map, navigate the different cities’ public transportation, and I had to pay better attention to my surroundings.

When you’re by yourself, you have to look out for yourself because no one else is going to do it for you. You can’t be careless, and you can’t let people take advantage of you because you’re a tourist.

This newfound independence comes with confidence of knowing that you are stronger and tougher than you once thought.

There is such a satisfying feeling of accomplishment that comes along with being able to navigate a new and foreign place, especially when you did it alone.


6. You become more observant

Normally, on trips, you spend a lot of time conversing with your travel companions and put your attention on them. Without the disruption of others, all of your focus is on your surroundings, as it should be.

Wonderful things happen when you are free from distractions; you see things you might have missed before or you meet people with whom you might not have taken the time to speak.

You are free to take this new place in with all of your senses. The sounds and scents of the city that were previously in the background are now front-and-center. Your experience becomes much fuller when you can take in everything about this new place.

When you travel alone, it might be the first time you’re seeing the world and actually seeing it.


7. Time to reflect

I don’t think I’ve ever paid more attention to my thoughts than when I was traveling alone. Without anyone else swaying your attitude about a certain place or activity, all you have is what you might be feeling at that moment. You can learn a lot about yourself and how you view the world.

There were many times when I found myself lingering at a certain place and would just be thinking about life and where I was, and how lucky I was to be there.

There are few opportunities in our everyday life where we can be completely honest with ourselves about how we feel or how we see the world, without our opinions being affected by another’s point of view.

On your solo trips, you can have that time to reflect on not only where you are and what you’re doing, but on life and what you want from it.


8. Treat Yourself!

Your 20s are a time of frugality. You probably don’t have a real job; more than likely, your refrigerator is barren, and your gas tank might be virtually on empty. You might have to live like this in your everyday life, but you should treat your trip alone like the celebratory event that it is!

Splurge on a fancy (or somewhat fancy, we’re not millionaires) hotel. Treat yourself to a luxurious dinner; order wine instead of water. Maybe even get that $6 dessert you would ordinarily pass up. This is your trip; try to make it like the vacation you deserve.

Luckily, there is no one there with you to say, “This restaurant looks too expensive,” or “We can’t afford that hotel.” Or, worst of all, “Let’s skip lunch to save money.”

You have the rest of your life to worry about your finances; be a little bit selfish while you still can.


9. You become fearless

Some people who have known me for a long time might be surprised I would travel the world alone. I used to be afraid of things I was not familiar with, and change made me uneasy. But, after traveling alone, there are few things I fear.

I have been in many situations during my travels where I have been scared, lonely, uncertain, frustrated and many other emotions we try to avoid every day.

What is important about those moments is that I got through them. Most importantly, I got through them alone. If it had not been for those moments when I felt afraid or homesick, I might not have the same outlook on life I hold now.

Whenever I think there is something I can’t accomplish, or the odds weigh too heavily against me, I can look back on those times I was alone and uncertain, but found my way through it.

After traveling through countries where nothing seems familiar, not knowing a word of the native language and finding your way through foreign streets to a destination, you will realize  there is nothing in this world you cannot do. There is simply nothing you cannot accomplish.

You become fearless.

Source: http://elitedaily.com/life/9-reasons-traveling-alone-best/854921/ 

26 Pictures Will Make You Re-Evaluate Your Entire Existence.

Nov. 17, 2014, at 3:24 p.m.
By: Dave Stopera

1. This is the Earth! This is where you live.

This is the Earth! This is where you live.
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2. And this is where you live in your neighborhood, the solar system.

And this is where you live in your neighborhood, the solar system.

3. Here’s the distance, to scale, between the Earth and the moon. Doesn’t look too far, does it?

Here's the distance, to scale, between the Earth and the moon. Doesn't look too far, does it?

4. THINK AGAIN. Inside that distance you can fit every planet in our solar system, nice and neatly.

THINK AGAIN. Inside that distance you can fit every planet in our solar system, nice and neatly.
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5. But let’s talk about planets. That little green smudge is North America on Jupiter.

But let's talk about planets. That little green smudge is North America on Jupiter.
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6. And here’s the size of Earth (well, six Earths) compared with Saturn:

And here's the size of Earth (well, six Earths) compared with Saturn:
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7. And just for good measure, here’s what Saturn’s rings would look like if they were around Earth:

And just for good measure, here's what Saturn's rings would look like if they were around Earth:
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8. This right here is a comet. We just landed a probe on one of those bad boys. Here’s what one looks like compared with Los Angeles:

This right here is a comet. We just landed a probe on one of those bad boys. Here's what one looks like compared with Los Angeles:
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9. But that’s nothing compared to our sun. Just remember:

But that's nothing compared to our sun. Just remember:

10. Here’s you from the moon:

Here's you from the moon:
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11. Here’s you from Mars:

Here's you from Mars:
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12. Here’s you from just behind Saturn’s rings:

Here's you from just behind Saturn's rings:
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13. And here’s you from just beyond Neptune, 4 billion miles away.

And here's you from just beyond Neptune, 4 billion miles away.
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To paraphrase Carl Sagan, everyone and everything you have ever known exists on that little speck.

14. Let’s step back a bit. Here’s the size of Earth compared with the size of our sun. Terrifying, right?

Let's step back a bit. Here's the size of Earth compared with the size of our sun. Terrifying, right?
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The sun doesn’t even fit in the image.

15. And here’s that same Sun from the surface of Mars:

And here's that same Sun from the surface of Mars:
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16. But that’s nothing. Again, as Carl once mused, there are more stars in space than there are grains of sand on every beach on Earth:

But that's nothing. Again, as Carl once mused, there are more stars in space than there are grains of sand on every beach on Earth:

17. Which means that there are ones much, much bigger than little wimpy sun. Just look at how tiny and insignificant our sun is:

Which means that there are ones much, much bigger than little wimpy sun. Just look at how tiny and insignificant our sun is:

Our sun probably gets its lunch money stolen.

18. Here’s another look. The biggest star, VY Canis Majoris, is 1,000,000,000 times bigger than our sun:

26 Pictures Will Make You Re-Evaluate Your Entire Existence

………

19. But none of those compares to the size of a galaxy. In fact, if you shrunk the Sun down to the size of a white blood cell and shrunk the Milky Way Galaxy down using the same scale, the Milky Way would be the size of the United States:

But none of those compares to the size of a galaxy. In fact, if you shrunk the Sun down to the size of a white blood cell and shrunk the Milky Way Galaxy down using the same scale, the Milky Way would be the size of the United States:

20. That’s because the Milky Way Galaxy is huge. This is where you live inside there:

That's because the Milky Way Galaxy is huge. This is where you live inside there:

21. But this is all you ever see:

But this is all you ever see:

(That’s not a picture of the Milky Way, but you get the idea.)

22. But even our galaxy is a little runt compared with some others. Here’s the Milky Way compared to IC 1011, 350 million light years away from Earth:

But even our galaxy is a little runt compared with some others. Here's the Milky Way compared to IC 1011, 350 million light years away from Earth:

Just THINK about all that could be inside there.

23. But let’s think bigger. In JUST this picture taken by the Hubble telescope, there are thousands and thousands of galaxies, each containing millions of stars, each with their own planets.

But let's think bigger. In JUST this picture taken by the Hubble telescope, there are thousands and thousands of galaxies, each containing millions of stars, each with their own planets.

24. Here’s one of the galaxies pictured, UDF 423. This galaxy is 10 BILLION light years away. When you look at this picture, you are looking billions of years into the past.

Here's one of the galaxies pictured, UDF 423. This galaxy is 10 BILLION light years away. When you look at this picture, you are looking billions of years into the past.

Some of the other galaxies are thought to have formed only a few hundred million years AFTER the Big Bang.

25. And just keep this in mind — that’s a picture of a very small, small part of the universe. It’s just an insignificant fraction of the night sky.

And just keep this in mind — that's a picture of a very small, small part of the universe. It's just an insignificant fraction of the night sky.

26. And, you know, it’s pretty safe to assume that there are some black holes out there. Here’s the size of a black hole compared with Earth’s orbit, just to terrify you:

And, you know, it's pretty safe to assume that there are some black holes out there. Here's the size of a black hole compared with Earth's orbit, just to terrify you:
D. Benningfield/K. Gebhardt/StarDate / Via mcdonaldobservatory.org

So if you’re ever feeling upset about your favorite show being canceled or the fact that they play Christmas music way too early — just remember…

This is your home.

This is your home.
By Andrew Z. Colvin (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0 (creativecommons.org) or GFDL (gnu.org)], via Wikimedia Commons

This is what happens when you zoom out from your home to your solar system.

This is what happens when you zoom out from your home to your solar system.

And this is what happens when you zoom out farther…

And this is what happens when you zoom out farther...
By Andrew Z. Colvin (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0 (creativecommons.org) or GFDL (gnu.org)], via Wikimedia Commons

And farther…

And farther...
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Keep going…

Keep going...
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Just a little bit farther…

Just a little bit farther...
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Almost there…

Almost there...
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And here it is. Here’s everything in the observable universe, and here’s your place in it. Just a tiny little ant in a giant jar.

And here it is. Here's everything in the observable universe, and here's your place in it. Just a tiny little ant in a giant jar.
By Andrew Z. Colvin (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0 (creativecommons.org) or GFDL (gnu.org)], via Wikimedia Commons

Oh man.

Source: http://www.buzzfeed.com/daves4/the-universe-is-scary

14 Habits Of Exceptionally Likable People.

MAY 22, 2014, 9:00 AM
BY: RICHARD FELONI

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Personal branding through social media may help you build your professional network, but there will never be a replacement for a charismatic personality.Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich” — one of the top-selling books of all time — wrote about the habits of the most likable people in his essay “Develop A Pleasing Personality,” published in the forthcoming collection “The Science of Success.”

He introduced his steps to having a “million-dollar personality” by explaining it was steel magnate Charles M. Schwab’s charming demeanor that in the late 19th century elevated him from day laborer to an executive with a $75,000 salary and a frequent million-dollar bonus (astronomical numbers for the time).

Schwab’s boss, the legendary industrialist Andrew Carnegie said “the yearly salary was for the work Schwab performed, but the bonus was for what Schwab, with his pleasing personality, could get others to do,” Hill writes.

Here are Hill’s 14 habits of people who are so likable that others go out of their way to help them:

1. They develop a positive mental attitude and let it be seen and felt by others.

It’s often easier to give into cynicism, but those who choose to be positive set themselves up for success and have better reputations.

2. They always speak in a carefully disciplined, friendly tone.

The best communicators speak deliberately and confidently, which gives their voice a pleasing sound.

3. They pay close attention to someone speaking to them.

Using a conversation as an opportunity to lecture someone “may feed the ego, but it never attracts people or makes friends,” Hill says.

4. They are able to maintain their composure in all circumstances.

An overreaction to something either positive or negative can give people a poor impression. In the latter case, says Hill, “Remember that silence may be much more effective than your angry words.”

5. They are patient.

“Remember that proper timing of your words and acts may give you a big advantage over impatient people,” Hill writes.

6. They keep an open mind.

Those who close themselves off from certain ideas and associate only with like-minded people are missing out on not only personal growth but also opportunities for advancing their careers.

7. They smile when speaking with others.

Hill says that president Franklin D. Roosevelt’s greatest asset was his “million-dollar smile,” which allowed people to lower their guards during conversation.

8. They know that not all their thoughts need to be expressed.

The most likable people know that it’s not worth offending people by expressing all their thoughts, even if they happen to be true.

9. They don’t procrastinate.

Procrastination communicates to people that you’re afraid of taking action, Hill says, and are therefore ineffective.

10. They engage in at least one good deed a day.

The best networkers help other people out without expecting anything in return.

11. They find a lesson in failure rather than brood over it.

People admire those who grow from failure rather than wallow in it. “Express your gratitude for having gained a measure of wisdom, which would not have come without defeat,” Hill says.

12. They act as if the person they are speaking to is the most important person in the world.

The most likable people use conversations as an opportunity to learn about another person and give them time to talk.

13. They praise others in a genuine way without being excessive.

“Praise the good traits of others, but don’t rub it on where it is not deserved or spread it too thickly,” Hill says.

14. They have someone they trust point out their flaws.

Successful people don’t pretend to be likable; they are likable because they care about their conduct and reputation. Having a confidant who can be completely honest with them allows them to continue growing.

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